“We suppress our authenticity because we want to avoid the pain of not being loved. By suppressing our authenticity, we create suffering for ourselves. Then we get into situations in life, and relationships, which are not authentic, for the sake of attachment. Now, it’s inevitable, almost inevitable in many situations, that if a person moved towards authenticity, it’s going to create the pain of maybe losing or threatening an attachment. They are going to have to be able to handle that pain. If they can’t handle that pain, they are going to stay suppressing their authenticity, which means they are going to create more suffering for themselves. So there is no painless authenticity.”

~ Gabor Maté