Maikā’i kākahiāka a Hau’ōli aloha Lā’pūle kākōu. ‘Ohoihoi lā nāni nōu. Ō ka maluhia no me ‘oe.
Good morning and a Happy Sunday to you all. Enjoy a beautiful day. Peace be with you.
We all hope our pets will never need emergency treatment, but sadly some will and emergencies always seem to happen at the most inconvenient time. The first and most important thing in an emergency…
Principles and Tools of our Planetary Service
* We utlize the power of group coherence and unified intention.
* We offer ourselves up to be used as Divine Channel as we transmit from the planetary Crystalline Grid and its pathways … Continue reading →
“Acceptance of one’s dark emotions is now backed by a body of evidence connecting the habit to better resilience and health.”
Habitually accepting negative emotions was found to not only reduce feelings of ill-being (as previous studies also demonstrate), but also was more likely to lead to elevated levels of well-being.
Acceptance involves not trying to change our feelings, but staying in touch with your feelings and taking them for what they are.
According to their analyses, the magic of acceptance is in its blunting effect on emotional reactions to stressful events. It’s that mechanism that can, over time, lead to positive psychological health, including higher levels of life satisfaction.
In other words, accepting dark emotions like anxiety or rage, won’t bring you down or amplify the emotional experience. Nor will it make you “happy” directly.
Buddhist leaders often underline that “acceptance” doesn’t mean being resigned to a stressful, negative situation, especially when the situation is within your control. Accepting situations is more complex and context-dependent. We need to accept a death, but we don’t need to endure unfair treatment from a landlord or employer, for instance, and doing so might lead to worse mental health.
That said, acceptance remains mysterious in some ways. Psychologists don’t know which factors influence some people to habitually accept less-than-rosy emotions, despite cultural pressures to stay positive. It’s also unclear whether acceptance might backfire in some individuals, or if people who usually suppress their darker feelings could seamlessly make the transition without the aid of a therapist or zen teacher.
“My hunch is that it’d be a challenge in the West, and in the US especially, where happiness and positivity are seen as virtues. Some companies want their customers and employees to be delighted all the time. That’s unreasonable, and when we’re faced with unreasonable expectations, it’s natural for us to start applying judgment to the negative mental experiences that we have.”
The other problem with only allowing ourselves to think positively, and constantly pursuing happiness, is that it puts people in a striving state of mind that is antithetical to calm contentment.
Like other cognitive habits, however, acceptance is a skill that can be acquired. (One commonly taught tactic is to think of your emotions as passing clouds, visible but not a part of you.) And according to a study Ford co-authored in 2010, older adults use acceptance more than younger adults. Like wisdom, the trait tracks with age, so most of us will get there eventually.
Ford believes her research could help inform future mental health interventions, which currently rely on some approaches that can fail people. “When something happens and you try to reframe it like, ‘Oh it’s not of such a big deal,’ or ‘I’m going to learn and grow from that that,’ it doesn’t necessarily work,” says Ford. People tend to reject that kind of reframing when their issues are severe, too. […]
Happy are those who know:
Behind all words, the Unsayable stands;
And from that source alone, the Infinite
Crosses over to gladness, and us –
Free of our bridges
Built with the stone of distinctions;
So that always, within each delight,
We gaze at what is purely single and joined.
~ Rainer Maria Rilke
The Whanganui River, revered by the Maori, is the first in the world to be seen as a living entity….
Between the years 535 and 536, a series of major global climatic events that took place that could easily be described as a global cataclysm with catastrophic consequences. The above abstract is from the sixth century historian and church leader, John of Ephesus, in his historical work, Church Histories (‘Historiae Ecclesiasticae’)…
Great tofu—tofu with a tender center surrounded by a well-seasoned, crisp crust—is one of the most satisfying bites of food I can think of, a food that can and should be appreciated by all serious eaters, no matter their diet. Here’s how to cook tofu so good even tofu-haters might come around. First we’re going to talk about how to shop for tofu, then we’ll talk about how to crisp up plain slices of tofu, and finally we’ll figure out the best way to prepare tofu for stir-frying […]
A NEW eating plan that favours green leafy vegetables and berries over red meat and cheese could halve your risk of dementia. Elli Jacobs reports […]