Spirtual Alchemy ~ Understanding Guilt

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If you judge yourself to be guilty over anything and you carry that guilt around with you, please know that’s a more serious mistake than whatever you did that makes you feel guilty. It’s a lot more serious mistake to feel guilty than to make a mistake. It’s also time for some serious personal work in the following areas:

Blame

Shame

Work on Blame and Shame and continue working on these two things until you can honestly say to yourself:

  1. I made a mistake (name it).

  2. I made, am making, or will make restitution to the best of my ability either to the wronged parties or other people (name them).

  3. I accept the fact I was guilty of making that mistake (name it).

  4. I forgive myself for making this mistake (name it).

  5. I forgive other people (name them) for the mistakes they made that harmed me (name them).

  6. I love myself in spite of making this mistake (name it).

  7. I know the Divine (use any name you choose) accepts me in spite of making this mistake (name it).

  8. I know the Divine (use any name you choose) forgives me for making this mistake (name it).

  9. I know the Divine (use any name you choose) loves me in spite of making this mistake (name it) and I love myself in spite of making this mistake.

When you’ve completed all these tasks to your satisfaction for now, take the time to decide if you’re willing to do the work required by Spiritual Alchemy to change your life, to change yourself into the person you want to become. We guarantee that if you do the work you will be happy beyond your wildest dreams with the results.

Spiritual Alchemy ~ Understanding Shame

Monica-BellucciTo the extent that we blame ourselves for anything, we feel ashamed. The truth is that no matter what we’ve done, the Divine accepts, forgives and loves us unconditionally. Mistakes are just that. We made an error. It may have been an error in judgment, but we made an error. That’s all we did. We goofed. We made a mistake. We were wrong.

Then … Whatever we did and whenever we did it is over and we need to get on with our lives. We need to realize that everybody living now and everybody that ever lived made mistakes and a lot of those mistakes are far worse than anything we ever did. We need to get over it and get on with our lives. Correct the error to the best of your ability, accept that’s the best you can do, forgive yourself for making the mistake in the first place, love yourself in spite of this mistake and get on with your life.

When you’re ashamed, you’re not living your life and that’s a much bigger mistake than anything you ever did that makes you feel ashamed now. Get over it. Confess to yourself and another human being whom you trust or confess to yourself and confess to the Divine. Confess your mistake. Confess your inability to make it right. Correct the error as best you can, accept this as being the best you can do, forgive yourself, love yourself in spite of this error and get on with your life.

If you don’t, you’re going to wallow around in shame until you do. While you’re wallowing around in shame like a pig in a mud hole, life goes on and passes you by. You remain in your dungeon of shame and people can’t see the best in you. They see only the worst and you continue your downward journey into self-pity, self-judgment and self-condemnation.

What’s wrong with this picture? Other people who’ve done much worse things than you accept their mistakes, forgive themselves and get on with their lives. Why can’t you?

You can. Here’s one way:

MANAGING SHAME – METHOD ONE

Make a list of all the things you did in your life that make you feel ashamed now. Make a list of all the things about your family, job, friends and environment that make you feel ashamed. Then one by one take up each item and ask yourself the following questions about that item:

  1. Does the Divine, who accepts and forgives everything, accept you and forgive you in spite of this mistake? Keeping asking until you find the strength to say yes.

  2. What can you do, in your present circumstances, to make amends for this mistake? Make it a priority to do what you can to make amends and avoid making this same mistake in the future. Do what you can, accept this is the best you can do, forgive yourself and love yourself anyway.

  3. If there’s nothing you can do, for whatever reason, about making amends, turn to the Divine and ask for forgiveness and peace and vow to do something to make somebody else’s life easier. By easing the pain of another person, you release your own pain and shame.

  4. Release your shame and let it go.

If you feel ashamed about something, you’re holding yourself back in life and impeding your spiritual growth. If you seek acceptance, forgiveness and love from the Divine because of this situation, you will instantly receive it. If you accept, forgive and love yourself to the best of your ability over this situation, you empower yourself and you grow spiritually.

The choice is yours and yours alone.

MANAGING SHAME – METHOD TWO

Make a list of all the things you did in your life that make you feel ashamed now. Make a list of all the things about your family, job, friends and environment that make you feel ashamed. Then one by one take up each item and ask yourself the following questions about that item:

  1. What can I do to make amends for the wrong that I’ve done?

  2. Can I make restitution to the person I harmed or their family?

  3. What restitution can I make?

  4. Can I help other people instead to make this restitution?

  5. What people?

  6. What can I do to help these other people?

  7. What do I have to do to stop feeling ashamed about this?

Your spiritual growth and your ability to live life to its fullest depends upon your ability to resolve your issues of shame. As long as you insist upon hanging onto your shame, your shame will retard your spiritual growth. As long as you insist upon hanging onto your shame, your shame will weigh you down and make life ever so much more difficult for you. As long as you insist upon hanging onto your shame, you cannot reach your highest potential in this life.

You must resolve your issues around shame to become free. Spiritual Alchemy is one tool to help you become free of the past so you can improve the quality of your life beyond your wildest dreams.

Aloha Spirit Is About Acceptance

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KALA
MAKIA MANAWA
ALOHA MANA
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One of the most respected living Kupuna/Elder in Hawai’i Nei is Aunty Mahealani Kuamo’o-Henry, Kumu ‘Elele o Na Kupuna. According to Aunty, and contrary to Off-Island (mis)interpretation, the Hawaiian word ho’oponopono means Acceptance … not the New Age rubbish of “I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you.”

In Acceptance, you Surrender by releasing the grip that is your Ego and make no judgments because All Are One. This is the message brought to us through Ka Lei Aloha I Na Kupuna … our beloved teachers of The Way … what we at The Halau know to be the Way of Aloha Spirit.

The Kupuna elders taught that when the heart and mind work together, we LIVE ALOHA. Knowledge and wisdom are found in ALOHA. Aloha starts within ourselves. The key to aloha is to apply it in your heart, then your mind and finally BE Aloha. These are the defining traits of character that express the charm, warmth and sincerity that are the People of Hawai’i. It is this working philosophy that has been presented as a gift to the people of our world. As you will come to know walking with The Halau here, Aloha is more than just a Word. It is the very Heart of Who We Are.