Also like a butterfly, if you run after it, it always flys away. If you let it fly freely, perhaps it comes back to you.
Relationships need a lot of care and attention … both people must actively care for and work on the relationship.
And so, if you love the bird, you will let it fly free … but if the bird loves you, it will remain with you.
YOU ARE SPIRIT GREATNESS … ALOHA UHANE NUI AU!
When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.
DO YOU REALIZE THAT YOU ARE LIGHT? ALOHA THIS …
1. At least 5 people in this world love you so much they would die for you.
2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.
3. The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.
4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you.
5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.
6. You mean the world to someone.
7. If not for you, someone may not be living.
8. You are special and unique.
9. Someone that you don’t even know exists loves you.
10. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.
11. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look: you most likely turned your back on the world.
12. When you think you have no chance of getting what you want, you probably won’t get it, but if you believe in yourself, probably, sooner or later, you will get it.
13. Always remember the compliments you received. Forget about the rude remarks.
14. Always tell someone how you feel about them; you will feel much better when they know.
15. If you have a great friend, take the time to let them know that they are great.
I will never know the bigger picture of anyone’s life, so it is best not to judge it.
I fully embrace the food being served from the menu of life!
If you judge yourself to be guilty over anything and you carry that guilt around with you, please know that’s a more serious mistake than whatever you did that makes you feel guilty. It’s a lot more serious mistake to feel guilty than to make a mistake. It’s also time for some serious personal work in the following areas:
Blame
Shame
Work on Blame and Shame and continue working on these two things until you can honestly say to yourself:
I made a mistake (name it).
I made, am making, or will make restitution to the best of my ability either to the wronged parties or other people (name them).
I accept the fact I was guilty of making that mistake (name it).
I forgive myself for making this mistake (name it).
I forgive other people (name them) for the mistakes they made that harmed me (name them).
I love myself in spite of making this mistake (name it).
I know the Divine (use any name you choose) accepts me in spite of making this mistake (name it).
I know the Divine (use any name you choose) forgives me for making this mistake (name it).
I know the Divine (use any name you choose) loves me in spite of making this mistake (name it) and I love myself in spite of making this mistake.
When you’ve completed all these tasks to your satisfaction for now, take the time to decide if you’re willing to do the work required by Spiritual Alchemy to change your life, to change yourself into the person you want to become. We guarantee that if you do the work you will be happy beyond your wildest dreams with the results.
To the extent that we blame ourselves for anything, we feel ashamed. The truth is that no matter what we’ve done, the Divine accepts, forgives and loves us unconditionally. Mistakes are just that. We made an error. It may have been an error in judgment, but we made an error. That’s all we did. We goofed. We made a mistake. We were wrong.
Then … Whatever we did and whenever we did it is over and we need to get on with our lives. We need to realize that everybody living now and everybody that ever lived made mistakes and a lot of those mistakes are far worse than anything we ever did. We need to get over it and get on with our lives. Correct the error to the best of your ability, accept that’s the best you can do, forgive yourself for making the mistake in the first place, love yourself in spite of this mistake and get on with your life.
When you’re ashamed, you’re not living your life and that’s a much bigger mistake than anything you ever did that makes you feel ashamed now. Get over it. Confess to yourself and another human being whom you trust or confess to yourself and confess to the Divine. Confess your mistake. Confess your inability to make it right. Correct the error as best you can, accept this as being the best you can do, forgive yourself, love yourself in spite of this error and get on with your life.
If you don’t, you’re going to wallow around in shame until you do. While you’re wallowing around in shame like a pig in a mud hole, life goes on and passes you by. You remain in your dungeon of shame and people can’t see the best in you. They see only the worst and you continue your downward journey into self-pity, self-judgment and self-condemnation.
What’s wrong with this picture? Other people who’ve done much worse things than you accept their mistakes, forgive themselves and get on with their lives. Why can’t you?
You can. Here’s one way:
MANAGING SHAME – METHOD ONE
Make a list of all the things you did in your life that make you feel ashamed now. Make a list of all the things about your family, job, friends and environment that make you feel ashamed. Then one by one take up each item and ask yourself the following questions about that item:
Does the Divine, who accepts and forgives everything, accept you and forgive you in spite of this mistake? Keeping asking until you find the strength to say yes.
What can you do, in your present circumstances, to make amends for this mistake? Make it a priority to do what you can to make amends and avoid making this same mistake in the future. Do what you can, accept this is the best you can do, forgive yourself and love yourself anyway.
If there’s nothing you can do, for whatever reason, about making amends, turn to the Divine and ask for forgiveness and peace and vow to do something to make somebody else’s life easier. By easing the pain of another person, you release your own pain and shame.
Release your shame and let it go.
If you feel ashamed about something, you’re holding yourself back in life and impeding your spiritual growth. If you seek acceptance, forgiveness and love from the Divine because of this situation, you will instantly receive it. If you accept, forgive and love yourself to the best of your ability over this situation, you empower yourself and you grow spiritually.
The choice is yours and yours alone.
MANAGING SHAME – METHOD TWO
Make a list of all the things you did in your life that make you feel ashamed now. Make a list of all the things about your family, job, friends and environment that make you feel ashamed. Then one by one take up each item and ask yourself the following questions about that item:
What can I do to make amends for the wrong that I’ve done?
Can I make restitution to the person I harmed or their family?
What restitution can I make?
Can I help other people instead to make this restitution?
What people?
What can I do to help these other people?
What do I have to do to stop feeling ashamed about this?
Your spiritual growth and your ability to live life to its fullest depends upon your ability to resolve your issues of shame. As long as you insist upon hanging onto your shame, your shame will retard your spiritual growth. As long as you insist upon hanging onto your shame, your shame will weigh you down and make life ever so much more difficult for you. As long as you insist upon hanging onto your shame, you cannot reach your highest potential in this life.
You must resolve your issues around shame to become free. Spiritual Alchemy is one tool to help you become free of the past so you can improve the quality of your life beyond your wildest dreams.
When we blame others for the things that happen to us, we are mistaken.
Most of us don’t believe that for a minute. But it is the truth.
Things happen. Some of them are accidents. Some of them are designed by the Divine to help us learn something about ourselves and others. Some of the are actually designed by us to help us learn something we want to learn. Some are caused by people in the grip of pain, wild emotions, drugs, mental problems or psychological disorders. Some are random acts of cruelty and evil.
What’s important to our spiritual health is not what happens to us but how we react to what happens. The event that happened did hurt us. Our reactions to that event continue to hurt us every day of our lives. We can’t stop what happened. We can stop our reactions to what happened. We do that through the simple process of understanding why we blame somebody or something else for our pain. We make a list of what happened and our current understanding of why we blame anybody or anything for what happened. We can learn to understand the evil deed they did was not them and the evil deed we did was not us.
We blame them, us or it because they, me or it did it.
We heal ourselves by understanding the other person was out of control and couldn’t stop before they hurt us. They were physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically or spiritually out of control. We heal ourselves by understanding we were out of control when it happened and that’s all there is to it. We heal ourselves by understanding the thing was out of control when it hurt us and that’s all there is to it.
What we need to do is accomplish this aspect of our spiritual alchemy is to the best of our ability at this time. Healing always follows such an effort in Journaling. So, break out the laptop, PC or book journal and go through this self-examination process:
List and understand what you blame your father for doing to you
List and understand what you blame your mother for doing to you
List and understand what you blame your child or children, brother or brothers, sister or sister, aunts, uncles and cousins for doing to you
List and understand what you blame your grandparents, great uncles, great aunts, nieces, nephews and all your other ancestors for doing to you
List and understand what you blame your friends, fellow students and fellow employees for doing to you
List and understand what you blame your enemies and antagonists for doing to you
List and understand what you blame all other persons whatsoever for doing to you
List and understand what you blame yourself, your mind, body, attitudes, beliefs, intentions, health and actions for doing to you
1. List and understand what you blame your father for doing to you
For our purposes the term father refers to the male person who contributed most to your childhood. This may be your biological father, a step-father or other male figure. It may include other men or be a combination of several men. If this is the case, you may want to do this task for each of them.
Your father, whether he is currently dead or alive, is a human being complete with strengths and weaknesses. He is a product of his environment and his heredity. He is a product of the prejudices and biases of his own parents and the society in which he grew up. He was and still is imperfect and he made and may still be making many mistakes.
Your father loves you and he wants the very best for you and he always has. He always did the best he could do in everything he did based on who and what he was at the time. He never intended to harm you, but he did intend to protect and teach you as best he could based on who and what he was at the time. He was imperfect and he made mistakes.
Your task is to sit quietly, become comfortable, take a few deep breaths and write down everything you remember you blame your father for. List the things he said and did that made you feel badly and explain these feelings.
Make certain your list is as complete as it can be for now. This may take you several days. So be it. Write as long as thoughts and ideas arise and as long as you’re comfortable. Take a break when you need to take a break. The intent of this part of the task is to recall as many details as you can comfortably recall about the things for which you blame your father. Write them all down together with a description of your feelings at the time.
When you’re done try to understand what mental, emotional, psychological or spiritual illness caused him to act in this way. Yes, he may have been the cause of your pain, but you don’t need to hang onto that forever. You can let it go and that choice is yours and yours alone. When finished, go to step two.
2. List and understand what you blame your mother for doing to you
For our purposes the term mother refers to the woman who contributed most to your childhood. This may be your biological mother, a stepmother or other female figure. It may include other women or be a combination of several women. If this is the case, you may want to do this task for each of them.
Your mother, whether she is currently dead or alive, is a human being complete with strengths and weaknesses. She is a product of her environment and her heredity. She is a product of the prejudices and biases of her own parents and the society in which she grew up. She was and still is imperfect and she made and may still be making many mistakes.
Your mother loves you and she wants the very best for you and she always has. She always did the best she could do in everything she did based on who and what she was at the time. She never intended to harm you, but she did intend to protect and teach you as best she could based on who and what she was at the time. She was imperfect and she made mistakes.
Your task is to sit quietly, become comfortable, take a few deep breaths and write down everything you remember you blame your father for. List the things she said and did that made you feel badly and explain these feelings.
Make certain your list is as complete as it can be for now. This may take you several days. So be it. Write as long as thoughts and ideas arise and as long as you’re comfortable. Take a break when you need to take a break. The intent of this part of the task is to recall as many details as you can comfortably recall about the things for which you blame your father. Write them all down together with a description of your feelings at the time.
When you’re done try to understand what mental, emotional, psychological or spiritual illness caused her to act in this way. Yes, she may have been the cause of your pain, but you don’t need to hang onto that forever. You can let it go and that choice is yours and yours alone. When finished, go to step three.
3. List and understand what you blame any of your children, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles and cousins for doing to you
Use the same technique you used for your mother and father and consider as many of these people as possible. Write it all down and open yourself to accepting each person as doing the best he or she could do at the time. When finished, go to step four.
4. List and understand what you blame your grandparents, great uncles, great aunts, nieces, nephews and all your other ancestors for doing to you
Use the same technique you used for your mother and father and consider as many of these people as possible. Write it all down and open yourself to accepting each person as doing the best he or she could do at the time. When finished, go to step five.
5. List and understand what you blame your friends, fellow students and fellow employees for doing to you
Use the same technique you used for your mother and father and consider as many of these people as possible. Write it all down and open yourself to accepting each person as doing the best he or she could do at the time. When finished, go to step six.
6.List and understand what you blame your enemies and antagonists for doing to you
Use the same technique you used for your mother and father and consider as many of these people as possible. Write it all down and open yourself to accepting each person as doing the best he or she could do at the time. When finished, go to step seven.
7. List and understand what you blame all other persons whatsoever for doing to you
Use the same technique you used for your mother and father and consider as many of these people as possible. Write it all down and open yourself to accepting each person as doing the best he or she could do at the time. When finished, go to step eight.
8. List and understand what you blame yourself, your mind, body, attitudes, beliefs, intentions, health and actions for doing to you.
We’ve intentionally saved the most difficult task for last. Having gone through this process for others makes it easier for us to go through it for ourselves. But go through it we must if we really intend to become the person we want to become. Go through it we must if we wish to advance spiritually in this lifetime. Go through it we must to continue our advancement in The Sanctuarium.
When you’re finished journaling on each of these eight relationships, decide how you want to handle all the paperwork you’ve generated. You may save or destroy it at your option. If you save it, you can use it later. The Sanctuarium will never ask you for your private papers. We will trust you when you say you’ve completed the task and wish to proceed.
“When you go out into the woods and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. And some of them are bent, and some of them are straight, and some of them are evergreens, and some of them are whatever. And you look at the tree and you allow it. You appreciate it. You see why it is the way it is. You sort of understand that it didn’t get enough light, and so it turned that way. And you don’t get all emotional about it. You just allow it. You appreciate the tree. The minute you get near humans, you lose all that. And you are constantly saying ‘You’re too this, or I’m too this.’ That judging mind comes in. And so I practice turning people into trees. Which means appreciating them just the way they are.”
~ Ram Dass
I let go of my anger so I can see clearly.
IKE
KALA
MAKIA MANAWA
ALOHA MANA
PONO
One of the most respected living Kupuna/Elder in Hawai’i Nei is Aunty Mahealani Kuamo’o-Henry, Kumu ‘Elele o Na Kupuna. According to Aunty, and contrary to Off-Island (mis)interpretation, the Hawaiian word ho’oponopono means Acceptance … not the New Age rubbish of “I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you.”
In Acceptance, you Surrender by releasing the grip that is your Ego and make no judgments because All Are One. This is the message brought to us through Ka Lei Aloha I Na Kupuna … our beloved teachers of The Way … what we at The Halau know to be the Way of Aloha Spirit.
The Kupuna elders taught that when the heart and mind work together, we LIVE ALOHA. Knowledge and wisdom are found in ALOHA. Aloha starts within ourselves. The key to aloha is to apply it in your heart, then your mind and finally BE Aloha. These are the defining traits of character that express the charm, warmth and sincerity that are the People of Hawai’i. It is this working philosophy that has been presented as a gift to the people of our world. As you will come to know walking with The Halau here, Aloha is more than just a Word. It is the very Heart of Who We Are.
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